Exhausting isn't it?

When you have to be on the constant look out for another person's emotional imbalance?... tip toeing carefully around their trigger happy fears and sensitivities as to not set off an attack or an over reaction? Exhausting.

This is not only exhausting emotionally, but physically as well. Being in a constant state of hypervigilance and fear of attack puts the body in a fight of flight mode. All that cortisol & adrenaline in your body for long periods of time is hard on the body.

When you are in relationship with a fearful or emotionally unhealthy person, it takes very little to set them off.

As hard as you try to keep them happy, or correct everything you do that seems to upset them, it's pointless. You are set up for failure because the change that is necessary needs to come from them, not you.

To begin to untangle remind yourself of the truth often.

The real problem that needs fixed is inside of them. Only they can fix that.

It doesn't matter how hard you try or what you change about you, their mind can and most likely will choose to take their pain out on you anyway.

They will find a reason to be upset with you and dump their pain onto you even if you do everything perfectly.

You are fighting a losing battle. Why? Because it's not even about you and your behaviors. It's about their stored pain and mental and emotional instability of the other person.

If you are in a tip toeing situation, decide today to retire those ballet slippers and put on a pair of walking shoes. Lace them up tight with the truth and gradually gain some distance between you and this emotionally unhealthy person.

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